How to reliably find out that the wife is cheating and whether it is necessary

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I don’t remember exactly when I started to henna hair. I think about 5 years ago. And during this time I had a very definite opinion about henna, and, alas, it does not coincide with what we used to hear from grandmothers and mothers.

Henna does not treat hair. At least she did not change the best of mine for sure, rather the opposite. At the ends of the hair began to push (which had never happened before), the hairstyle has lost volume, the hair has become worse to give in to styling. But for those who want straight hair, henna will definitely fit. She heavily weights hair, which is why they are constantly trying to straighten up.
Do I need to talk about how hard it is to dye hair with henna? The procedure takes several hours. It is very difficult to dye hair evenly, especially if you do it yourself without any help. The mass of henna is very heterogeneous, it is difficult to stir all the lumps, no matter how much I try. Yes, the addition of oils, egg yolk, of course, facilitate the task, but not 100%.
If you decide to take a break from henna staining for some time and your roots have grown, and then you painted them again - the difference will always be noticeable. I emphasize - always. Freshly dyed hair will always be a couple of shades lighter, and the rest - darker. This will be especially noticeable on blond hair (it happened to me, for example). The fact is that henna has a cumulative effect, and the more often you color your hair with it, the darker and richer the color will be. This difference cannot be avoided.
The biggest problem with henna dyeing for me personally is the coloring of my temples. For some reason, the hair on the temples can not be stained. I think it's all about hair growth. As a result, the skin is predominantly colored, and the hair acquires a very light red tint. And it is noticeable, alas.
Do not listen to those who say that henna treats the hair section. This is not true. At least the henna that you can buy from us on the Russian market. My hair has never flowed away - the scalp is rather oily and due to this even the tips are moisturized all the time. But after I started to dye my hair with henna, my tips began to break off. It has become harder to comb your hair. On short hair, this unpleasant effect is almost not noticeable. But with the long - continuous trouble.
Immediately after dyeing hair looks amazing. They shine (henna fills all scales), the volume is added. But after you wash your head several times, this wonderful effect disappears.
By the way, about washing. Hair, painted with henna, very badly lather and washed with shampoo. If earlier it was enough to apply shampoo 2 times, now 3 is the minimum. Here, of course, the role is also played by the quality of the water. But the fact remains.
Your hair will need constant use of masks and conditioners. Previously, I almost did not use additional tools - hair and so were not dry. But as soon as I started to henna, I immediately felt a desire to moisturize and nourish my hair. Without indelible serums, hair simply cannot be combed!
If you like to change hair color, henna will save you from the thirst for change. Because henna can only be spliced or try to dye your hair in a darker shade at your own risk. But the consequences can be nightmarish.
From the positive - it seems to me that henna really helps to treat dandruff. It is dandruff, not serious seborrhea.
Yes, the color from henna is amazing.

Possible reasons

The reasons may be mass:

Lack of interest. Favorite, becoming a wife, has ceased to excite. Not interesting, as before, what she does and says. Everyday appearance of the beloved dulls the senses. But if a woman does not see admiration in the eyes of her husband, then she can go looking for adventure on the side.
Sex, rather, the lack of - the main reason for adultery, that in men, that in women. Often after five years in marriage, sexual attraction to each other is dulled, but sexual instincts do not disappear. If the last few weeks of sexual discharge was not, and your woman is satisfied, then it is worth considering.
Revenge. If a man has a romance, then you should not be surprised, but some wives will not make a tantrum, scandal and beat the dishes, and quietly and without noise will follow the example of her husband. Often so do women who have been married for a long time. A high percentage of wives are 40 years old.
Control. Sometimes jealous people themselves are pushing a woman to change. Total surveillance, claims and accusations of mythic treason are pushing a woman to the idea that at least the charges will be deserved.
Tell me who is your friend? If the girlfriends of the wife relate to marriage and fidelity frivolously and constantly transmit it or talk about a variety of passionate novels and fun adventures, then this is a call. Even if the wife does not change now, but encourages this behavior of her friends, then it is possible for her to be normal. And it is difficult to resist the temptation, especially when friends can exaggerate and embellish.

18 thoughts on “Why I consider henna poison for hair”

By the way, I noticed this when henna long ago painted - dryness and lack of elasticity. True, my hair did not break.
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I think we did not have time :) All the same, our hair is an amazing thing, it is not so easy to lime.

What about colorless?
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and what's the difference? The same film, but without pigment

Yes, I know girls who are henna YET nothing spoiled. And yes, I liked to use colorless sometimes. But nevertheless I agree with every word and in my time was glad when I could persuade my mother to refuse her
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I am very glad that everything is easy to dissuade me.

I used to use brown henna lush. Just because I never dyed my hair, and sometimes I still wanted to change something a little. I liked the effect, by the way. I stopped using it because I just got tired of rubbing this piece on a grater, then spreading porridge, sitting with a bag on my head, and so on. Maybe laziness saved me from the harmful effects of henna 🙂
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I do not know about Lash, honestly. What is there for henna and what it is eaten with ... She is not red, though)

In Lash henna is mixed with some other plant extracts. I, I think, had a coffee. But when brewing it turned out the old kind of greenish henna :))
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Thanks for the info :) Anyway, well, her. I trust Lasha even less than hell :)

And maybe henna spoil the hair follicle? I dye my hair black and grow about 3 years ago I decided to dye basma hair with henna. I painted 1 time. Since then, not what kind of paint takes me badly and at the roots. I am painted in black but as if some red tint on the hair is at the roots.

No, henna, like any other dye does not penetrate to the bulb. The red shade on the hair indicates that you have a poor-quality dye. Most likely, paint with household paint, and the roots and the length of one composition. Buy any professional paint (even Estel, it is not expensive), and tint the roots with 3% oxide.

Oh, in her distant youth henna also dyed her hair regularly, on the advice of her grandmother. The condition of the hair was terrible: dry, splitting straw!
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Henna didn't take my hair ... bought henna and basma (mixture) for 700 rubles, I heard plenty of good reviews. No result. Here is no! I turned to the girls for advice (by the way, did one of them give a link to the group here above ??). There they laughed at me, saying that I need to repigment with plain pure henna. OK. The next day I bought henna and put it on my hair. The result, my dark blond steel with a rusty shade (just the same rusty, ugly and unnatural, like my grandmother is 70 years old). Well, I think nothing, it's repigmentation! Washed away. Has dried up. Caused henna-Basma for 700r. The result is the same. That is, no. Again, she did not take, there was a rusty shade of the roots of the previous "prepigmentation."
Well, the most interesting thing started later, I wrote a post about my failure and disappointment with a photo of a group of girls, I turned to for advice somewhere. To which I received rudeness in response, I was accused of impatience. Only one girl stood up and advised me not to contact henna again (since she simply didn’t fit me, not because I was so impatient) —she was also showered with slippers and, in general, they said, this is my second page. In general, I am in shock.
Girls, do not dye your hair this nonsense. If only because she behaves strangely in her hair.
Well, I'm looking for a suitable professional dye, I hope all cheap rust paint over

Your article is an invention! There is nothing worse than chemical paints, and henna has been used and used for thousands of years. I dye my hair with henna mixed in kefir for three years now. Strangers come up to me and ask me how I take care of my hair!

Your experience is very good, I am glad that this dye is suitable for your hair. In turn, you are subjective, but I understand the technological processes and see dozens of different hair worn out by henna. whereas professional dye in experienced hands never hurts hair. This chemistry, physics and biology.

how basma changed my hair, basma + henna, and something else

There is a lot of talk about henna and basma and their usefulness, but what to say - it is better to try and make up your mind. My native color is blond, uncolored chemical paint and I would not change it with pleasure, but my ends become some red and discolored (especially, of course, in summer), dry and split, if you attach the ends to the crown, it feels like hair from two different people)))

Here they are:

I didn’t come to Basma right away, at first I just painted my hair henna, then interfered with henna and basma,

and then brown shadethat gave my hair a reddish tint (which I did not expect).

But in more detail I want to stop at my latest experiments.

1) I decided to mix henna, basma and laischevo brown henna. In proportions about 1: 2: 1.

And I really liked the color, especially at the first time after painting, it looked very natural, After henna, I have very smooth, shiny hair!

But, washing off, I still got out a reddish tint, it was at this stage that I began to think that perhaps the lash added chemistry to its henna!

2) In the end, I decided to mix henna with basma 1: 2 and brew it for coffee.

Coffee custard poured cold water and not boiling boiled them henna.

In the meantime, I brewed oak bark and nettle to strengthen the roots))) I take a syringe without a needle and apply it to the partings.

In henna added vitamins A, E, B1.

I want to note that before that I made two bowls - one for the roots, the other for the tips, and added different oils: for the roots - um bay, rosemary, burdock oil, for the tips any cosmetic oil. All this was washed away, of course, not very well. Henna is generally poorly washed off, you need to rinse your hair for a long time, but you can still have a feeling of dirt on your hair until the next wash.

It is not recommended to wash it off with shampoo (so as not to wash off the color), but I still wash it off. And then do not wash your hair for 3 days, so that the color until the end revealed, but I wash after 2 days.

It is necessary to put it on the hair with gloves and with care not to get the bath dirty. Keep about 1.5 hours, do not cover.

By the way, I really like the smell of henna, I generally love all kinds of herbs :))

I am happy, I will continue to experiment!

In general, henna and basmo coloring gives a good result by the method of sampling, when you yourself already learn how to interfere with proportions))

What to look for?

How does a woman usually behave when she changes for a long time? Oddly enough, the first changes in behavior are often liked by men. The second half ceases to cut for scattered socks, does not notice late returns, ignores minor sins for which she was previously ready to make a tantrum. But this does not mean that the problems have ceased to worry her. Husband should be aware of the following warning signs:

Unusual changes in appearance. If a girlfriend began to wear erotic lingerie, make deep hair removal and look after her at any time of the day or night, this indicates a new relationship for which she tries to look beautiful.
A sudden change of schedule, the emergence of hobbies that require a stay away from home. The wife begins to engage in fitness, dancing, endlessly lingers at work, almost every evening she is not at home. The reasons are invented any, but in any case, the woman will not allow her husband to carry himself to a fitness club or to meet with work.
Strange calls, constant correspondence in social networks, allegedly with new friends, about which the husband will soon find out the unpleasant information.

Why do wives betray?

It is necessary to understand that men's treason is different from women's. If for men this is a casual flirtation or a spree on the side, from which only pleasant memories remain, then the female sex pays attention to emotional affection. Therefore, the question is so acute whether to forgive. Sex with another happened not from scratch, so you have to make a responsible choice - to maintain or break off the relationship.

The only advice is: before you ask a question about treason, get ready to listen to the flow of accusations that you are not paying attention to her, do not like, in general, they themselves are to blame for having started a lover. How to respond to this, everyone decides for himself, but it is necessary to refrain from reckless actions. Tell us about your experience and share useful advice!

Common symptoms

The girls learned to hide the deception well, sometimes reaching the level of skill. To which only they will not go, in order to avoid punishment and to confuse the contented head.

If the wife has changed her behavior definitely change! First of all, pay attention to this moment. He is the most significant, as they talk about the changes in her personal life, which, most likely, are not related to you.
Unreasonable change of mood may indicate that there are disagreements with her new partner or vice versa.
You feel for the last time that the intimate relationship has failed. Of course, this is not 100% infidelity, because we can not always think about sex, but if this has become a regularity, it is worth considering.
The spouse has lost respect for you, begins to point out flaws, does not respect your choice, does not make concessions, and also compares with others. This is not only unpleasant, but it also means something.
Lost interest to you. If earlier she was jealous, “sawed”, arranged quarrels and fights because of gatherings with friends and late returning home, now she doesn’t care, maybe it even makes her happy, because now there is a lot of time for a new object of passion and for herself.
Frequent delays at work testify not because of "blockages" at work. Frequent "reports" indicate that time is spent with a lover. Check it is easy, just offer to take it from work or come without warning.
You can check the wife's loyalty by whoever takes her home. A stranger or colleague will not become a free taxi driver from pure motives.
Signs of treason wife lie in underwear. Surely you noticed a new lace underwear. Of course, there is nothing shameful in his purchase, but if she puts it on before leaving, and not for your sake - most likely, the guesses are not groundless.
Frequent overnight stays "at a friend" can be a great cover for meeting with a man.
From time to time find different gifts, some of them expensive? Surely the spouse secretly receives them and brings them home. You know exactly what you bought her and she could afford them herself, given the family budget?
Monthly can also draw conclusions. That is, they can be a reason for refusal. Pay attention to how often this reason is announced. Perhaps she will reveal herself when several times a month, one reason would be to argue for not wanting to sleep with you.
Some "manic" spouse because of their jealousy determine when the wife went "left" on the vagina. For example, when immediately after arriving home, the spouse hurries into a shower, closes there. Maybe she washes away the traces and smell of another.

How to find out cheating with your phone? Most likely, the phone is increasingly hiding from your eyes, you have limited access to it, more and more often it puts it on silent mode or even turns it off. Take the opportunity and check the correspondence and incoming calls.
How to determine the betrayal of his wife in appearance? She began to spend a huge amount of time near the mirror? Cardinal image change? Repainted in a new color? All these signs can mean something amiss.
How to recognize infidelity from the body and make sure that the inner feeling does not let you down? It is rather unpleasant to realize that the second half is more dishonest with you. It has been proven that the stronger sex perceives this fact as painfully as the representatives of the weaker sex. One of the most authentic facts of betrayal is its alienation. The feeling that warm hugs no longer beckon a girl, she no longer needs them. Although it soothed her before, it brought you both closer. You have another person in front of you. Next, look at facial expressions. The beautiful half of humanity has about 45 muscles on their faces, without even realizing it, they show true emotions. When talking about love, and a sarcasm mask is drawn on the face, and eyes are narrowed up - this is an obvious deception. Signals such as a close long look should be alarming, because this manifestation means hatred. If the beloved's gait changes, it means that you have been “guided by horns”. You will definitely notice the change, because it will move with a high head and an independent view of the city. The above facts indicate that the physiological signs of female treason are obvious.

However, do not panic and arrange debriefing! Only mass coincidences over a certain period can be a cause for action. One or several coincidences can be a real coincidence. Approach the matter consciously and analyze what is happening.

Folk wisdom and advice to men

Long since, folk omens have been considered a reliable source from which you can look into the future or decipher certain actions and events. In the married life, there are also enough situations for which there are answers from the ancestors. For example, they say that if a spouse began to mention a certain man, neighbor, acquaintance, and even more so to praise him, to compare you with him, this means that you stopped arranging her, there were enough complaints. And do not think that the novel is with him. No, this is just a “bell” for a spouse to redefine the relationship. Otherwise, afterwards a lover will really appear.

Do not understand what is happening between you? Analyze her mood. Thoughtfulness, withdrawal “in oneself” and dramatic changes in the emotional plane testify to changes in her personal life.

A sufficient number of existing methods will help determine how honest the second half is with you, only by carefully observing it you can be sure of a possible deception. Only after the cup of arguments outweighs simple suspicions can one present them and begin a serious conversation. Do not throw suspicions ahead of time, because not every person will be able to forgive false accusations and humiliating distrust in his own address.

First of all, analyze your own behavior. Surely you yourself more than once gave reason to doubt your loyalty and love. Sometimes, we push close people to commit a terrible mistake by our attitude. Unreasonable jealousy and prohibitions cause pain, and lack of attention and care leads to consequences when a person at a subconscious level searches for missing feelings and emotions “on the side”.

There were cases when you refused to help or support her beloved, when she needed it? Not surprisingly, she eventually takes it from the other. Then her fault is no more than yours.

But when it comes to prudent betrayal, do not hesitate and blame yourself.

Do not try to sensitize a person or try to renew a relationship. Gather your thoughts and categorically declare your separation and divorce. Leave proudly and try to be alone for a while. Ponder how you think to live, whether to forgive.

When there are common children, the situation becomes more complicated. In no case do not delete them from your life and do not try to make them a bargaining chip, because they are not guilty of anything. They still need both parents, they still love them. Try to spend your free time with them, without discussing the situation, not to insult their mother. They are unlikely to understand this, and you will not add this honor.

Eliminate the option "revenge" similar actions. It certainly does not heal the soul, but it can aggravate the situation. And also “pouring over grief” with alcohol is a dubious method. Except for destruction, nothing will come of it.

As for the emotional state, try to behave appropriately strong sex. No humiliation, no scandals, no requests to return should not be. Only decent behavior can cause remorse of the partner’s conscience and make you regret what you have done. Whatever choice you make regarding your family, stay at a decent level.

Indirect signs of treason

Men are inattentive to the external change of their halves, and after all, by modifications it is possible to calculate the betrayal of the wife. They are about 15 points.

The first sign: the wife is in the clouds. A pensive, dreamy look, a wandering smile, wet eyes. She laughs, then cries, without explaining the reasons for the surging emotions.
The woman began to carefully monitor the appearance. New hairstyle, always made up, enrolled in a fitness center, beautiful underwear.
Previously, the wife threw the phone, without hesitation, to a prominent place, but now she does not let go, social network passwords are changed, secrets appeared - a serious reason to think. Now she doesn’t talk with her friend on the phone in front of you, but goes into the bathroom and answers in telephone conversations in a monosyllabic manner. Even worse, the wife sometimes decided to stay with a friend or sister overnight. At the right moment, neither the girlfriend, nor the wife can not get through and only after some time the wife calls back from a mobile phone.
Favorite became more likely to linger at work, to meet with friends outside the home, social hobbies appeared, although before his wife loved to spend time with her family. On the offer to meet with work reacts negatively.
Sexual behavior has changed. Having fallen in love with another man, a woman often tries to distance herself from marital obligations. There are a lot of reasons why sex will definitely be tomorrow, only not now: the woman is tired, her head aches, something is upset, and so on. Sex itself is changing, the woman leads in bed not like before.
Appeared criticality, irritability. The wife "saws" her husband because of trifles, makes a bunch of claims, does not thank for the good, but notices the bad.
Indifference. A woman doesn’t care when a man returns home, his state of health, how things are progressing at work, she stopped worrying about whether a man pays attention to other women.
Admiring others. In a conversation, a mysterious colleague, a friend, a husband of a friend, who turns out to be smart, olfactory, and hardworking, appears. In this case, the wife each time clarifies that with this man she has only friendly, friendly relations and as a man he does not attract her. This does not mean that the wife is already cheating, but still it is worth the alert.

Physiology

For accusing his wife of treason, there are few indirect signs. Therefore, you need to pay attention to the physiological signs. So, how do you know the body was treason?

The girl once again stayed at work. When the wife comes home, look at her. appearance: a disheveled hairstyle, tights with arrows, rumpled clothes, swollen lips are signs of treason.
Worth a look on the face. In women, after touching the male stubble, there is irritation. If there were kisses with another man, it will be noticeable.
With close contact with her lover woman smells it. Men's toilet water, body odor, if they are strangers, are noticeable. If there was sex, then the woman smells specifically: this is the smell of grease and sperm. But even if the wife does not smell anything, as if she had recently left the shower, it is strange. How to check without giving out an unusual interest? Meet your wife at the door, hug, kiss, inhale the scent of skin, hair, body.
If the wife came home and went into the shower, offer your help: rub your back. After sex there will be redness, bites on the body, especially in the chest, thighs, arms.

Evidence of treason

But there are ways that allow with the accuracy of up to 100% to make sure that the girl is infidel How to make sure that the wife is cheating?

You can determine the betrayal of cowards? Yes. There is a special set of infidelity: within 72 hoursin after a possible betrayal, you must take his wife's underwear and take it to the laboratory.

Polygraph or lie detector dot the i. If doubts do not dissipate, but there is no evidence, you should contact a polygraphist. We recommend resorting to this method if sleep and rest are lost. It is unlikely that a woman lives in this world who will not be offended by an offer to undergo a lie test. After this, the divorce may occur and not because of adultery.
Detective Agency. Organizing surveillance of an unfaithful wife in the 21st century is easier than ever. There would be money.
View correspondence in a social network, view phone calls, listen telephone conversations, buy a special bug and put it in the bag, watch your wife yourself. Spying activity is unpleasant, and even if you do not find anything, grains of mistrust are sown and now you will constantly watch, listen and follow.
Strange, but sometimes a simple way works better than complex ones. Try just ask in the forehead and look at the reaction. Perhaps the wife has long been waiting for a difficult conversation, and maybe even has a feeling of guilt, and an unexpected question will make her confess.

Treason proven

Before you convict your wife of treason, you should speak frankly with yourself: are you ready to part, are you ready for divorce, share property. Is it not your fault either, that your spouse lost interest in you and began to look at the side? Do you love her and after the betrayal or now can not live with her under the same roof? How serious was her romance? How to understand the act of his wife? What to do now?

First, sit down and talk. Find out how these relationships outside the family are important to her. Then everything depends on what you feel: if pain and resentment overpower the old feelings towards your beloved, then you need to diverge. Because the constant reproaches still will not give back a sincere love relationship.

It may turn out that the wife herself wants to go to her lover. And this, too, must be prepared. For some, this blow may be harder to treason. But if you decide to stay together and continue to build family relationships, you will have to make serious efforts to restore trust and understanding. May need the help of a psychologist. But in any case, marriage will have to change a lot. This difficult traumatic situation for all. The choice is yours.

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